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I never read Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, but I live that book every day. Call it gender roles, the pink jobs vs the blue jobs, or simply captain and mate. Boys and girls are different and I’m not just talking innie versus outie. I had sent Serena to the store to get AA battery’s…
I have this really annoying trait. I seem to believe that I have this little book of knowledge covering every subject in the world all stored in the back of my mind. It is true that I have a photographic memory but as I get older I have more difficulty remembering where I stored those photographs.
So Serena comes home with a big box of batteries for me. On our boat batteries are like gold, everything runs off them from our tiny GPS to my beloved short wave radio “Thanks Ken” 🙂 Rather than profess my gratitude I simply muttered…
Alan, Hum, I would have gotten Duracell.
Serena, I figured they are all the same so I got the cheap ones.
Alan, I always assume the more they cost the better they are, remember the Duracell bunny.
Serena, That’s Energizer.
Alan, Whatever, I doubt these will last as long as the good ones.
Serena, Actually I bought them because I thought they were pretty.
Alan, really dumb look, the kind I always have on my face when I’m confused which is more often than not.
How can I argue with this logic, It may be 180 degrees from my thinking but but the truth is, pretty counts. Half of my annual maintenance is making the boat pretty, varnish, wax, paint… There is always the underlying fact that these cosmetic contributions are structural but the end result is pretty. So then why can’t batteries be pretty, they still serve the same purpose and now they are fun.
I honestly don’t think we agree on anything and while we don’t have any specific gender roles we do each have our strengths. Before I met Serena I ate my food cold out of the can, now I am fat and eat like a king. The food hasn’t changed, just the way it is prepared. Rather than focus on our weaknesses “what a waste of time” we each focus on what we are good at and what we enjoy. Serena tries to teach me to cook and I try and teach her the logic behind my completely irrational thought processes, its a win win situation.
Its our different perspectives on the world that helps us share, teach, and learn from each other. There can be only one captain on every boat but the wiser captain passes the tiller to his first mate.
“Alaska decided to go help Dolores with dinner. She said that it was sexist to leave the cooking to the women, but better to have good sexist food than crappy boy-prepared food.”
~Jon Green, Looking for Alaska